Make sure everyone wears white at my funeral. I hope it is summer, but even if it is not WHITE is the color. 🙂
For my obituary find a recent picture of me, don’t use some young one if I am old or some healthy one if I am sick. Make sure it looks like me, and make sure I am smiling. A real happy smile.
I want to be cremated. Have beautiful flowers lots of them with lots of colors and I want there to be pictures. SO many pictures! Me and my family, me and the girls, me and Jonathan and me and my friends. Pictures where I am doing exactly what I love. Spending time with what has made me rich in this life, my friends and family. Young pictures and old pictures (I hope.) Pictures of the beautiful life I have gotten to live.
I don’t want a regular funeral. Bring my ashes from the funeral home to somewhere I love. We had our wedding, and Josephine’s baby shower at the Peninsula Town Hall, that would be nice. Or our beach club in Euclid if it is in the summer, we have spent so many wonderful times there with the kids. I have spent many an afternoon sitting at a picnic table watching all of our girls live and play there. Or our church, we had Blossom baptized there and Josephine confirmed. We spent many Sundays sitting and laughing together there. Or the Peninsula Church. Jonathan and I met there, we brought Josephine back to be baptized there. Somewhere like that, somewhere I loved, and somewhere where they loved me.
Have the minister say a prayer and a few kind words about me, but keep it short lol. Then let some friends or family say some kind things read a poem or two. Have someone sing a song and then move on to the celebrating. 🙂
Please please please CELEBRATE and enjoy each other. Celebrate the fact that I LIVED and LOVED for as long as I did! 🙂 Know I am blessed beyond measure to have gotten to LIVE. Remember I am there. Where else in the universe could I be.
Play music. Songs from church that I liked and music that we listened to in our life. Play Bob Dylan Blood On The Tracks, not because I like it but because Jonathan did. He insisted on playing it non stop when the kids were little. We played the record bald, lol. Play Jazz in the Park from the Peninsula library, because we listened to it Sunday mornings when we all had breakfast together. Play James Taylor because I love him. Play Morning has Broken because my Gram had it hanging on her fridge. Play Hootie and the Blowfish and Rusted Root because I was young once. Play the songs of our life, and remember me when you hear them. 🙂
Have drinks and too much food. Because that is what I would do if I was there. Make sure you make coffee too because my family drinks lots of coffee. 🙂
Most of all give each other SO many hugs and KNOW without a doubt I am there with you at that party and forevermore. I will be where I always was in YOUR heart.